RESORT

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Its never to early to shop for the beach:) This is always one of my favorite lust lists to do because they’re so happy! I’ve been curled up on the couch in sweats and slippers planning a dream getaway in my ultimate wardrobe. While shopping this week I discovered (yes, taking full credit for this one) a new brand. I absolutely love the style, it reminds me of Loveshackfancy, and I was surprised by the prices. Not inexpensive but definitely competitive given the aesthetic. I love this skirt with a white tee and the olive gladiator sandals. Also, these were the cult favorite shorts last summer. I have a feeling they’re going to be again and I’m thinking over ordering them. They’re high-waisted and this seems to be the perfect go with everything wash. Stay tuned!

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PS I’ve received so many questions about my favorite Celine sunglasses and I found them on SUPER sale! Click HERE:)

the sunny side

Posted on January 15, 2019 and filed under Lust List.

INSTA TRY-ON

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Posted on January 11, 2019 .

PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM THE SUN + SKIN CANCER

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Skin cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer in the US. This is unfortunately a reality that hits close to home for me. Skin cancer runs in my family. My mom grew up in Belgium and France and recalls summer after summer lathering her skin in oils and laying out with zero protection. From an early age it has always been something that she ingrained in my sister and I - wear sunscreen! But why is it a topic only discussed in the summer? What about the rest of the year? About two months ago I found something that looked suspect on my back and realized I hadn’t gone for my annual skin check in years. I was so mad at myself! I immediately reached out to Dr. Sarah Dolder, a dermatologist with a practice in both Greenwich, CT and Manhattan, for help. Dr. Dolder was born and raised in Australia which basically makes her a sun expert! We originally met at an event through a mutual friend and I instantly loved her! Her calm and reassuring demeanor is exactly what I look for in a doctor.

Fast forward two weeks to my appointment. Dr. Dolder checked my entire body, including my scalp, for anything suspicious. It was fast and painless. Getting an annual check is a crucial part of skin cancer detection. Additionally, checking yourself throughout the year is equally as important. Below you’ll find the ABC’s that Dr. Dolder outlined for me. For most this is nothing new but if you’re like me, you probably could use a refresher. I’ve never discussed a topic like this on my blog before but its something I feel very strongly about and wanted to share.

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Coffee break with Dr. Sarah Dolder

Coffee break with Dr. Sarah Dolder

your monthly skin check


the abc’s

a - asymmetry

b - border

c - color

d - diameter

e - evolving lesion


The best way to detect skin cancer early is to be aware of any changes in your skin, abnormalities, or growths. Dr. Dolder advises that you do not check daily because you won’t be able to notice when there is a difference. Instead, check yourself monthly and have a friend or family member check hard to see places like your back.


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In Dr. Dolder’s office waiting for my skin check

In Dr. Dolder’s office waiting for my skin check

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I am not a doctor and this article is based on my own research and opinions. If you need medical advice please contact your physician

Posted on January 10, 2019 and filed under Wellness.

A CASUAL WINTER LOOK

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I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, “mom life” doesn’t have to mean you’re living in spandex everyday. Totally not judging those who do (I get it!) but there are other options:) Below is my simple formula for a chic and still comfortable kid-friendly look. It all starts with a cute coat like this one. Its usually one of the pieces in a closet that my clients will say they’re “saving” for a special occasion. My advice is to ditch the puffer once and a while and feel good in your best coat! A wool wrap coat doesn’t have to break the bank, and I tried rounding up a wide range of price points. Next up, my closet staple the oversized sweater. I love this one and this budget friendly neutral one. My favorite pair of black jeans (probably ever) are these. I have them with the slits but you can also get them without. They’re extremely comfortable and soft and the high waist holds everything in. Note: If you don’t love for your button to be over your belly button, these are not for you!

Short story about my sneakers: I recently wore them on stories and someone asked what color they were. I laughed and responded, “I call the color vintage and stained!”. I bought this pair 14 years ago at a second hand shop on M Street in Washington, DC. They told me they were special because they were made the last year that converse still made their sneaks in the US. Fast forward 3 years a puppy and one day I came home to a half eaten shoe. Needless to say I STILL have them and still wear them all the time. I was psyched when I found this pair online because the color seems to be that same vintage creamy tone that mine are as well as the slightly elevated sole for a little extra cushion. You will thank me!!!

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BELTED COAT


OVERSIZED SWEATER


COMFORTABLE DENIM


SNEAKERS


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THE GUIDE - JANUARY

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THE GUIDE


FEEL THIS

You’ve read all of these before but its such a good reminder. Is it me or has the influx of diet, exercise, and wellness resolutions been louder this year than ever? I’ve been working on lowering my sugar and caffeine intake significantly but lets be honest, I can’t quit them. Instead I’ve set achievable goals: one piece of chocolate a day - I’m Belgian, I can’t give that up - and one caffeinated beverage a day (trying to just do green tea or matcha). I sound like a baby but the last few days have been rough without coffee! Lots of headaches but my stomach has felt SO much better. Priorities:)


PIN THIS

A shameless plug for myself but let me tell you, Pinterest saved me a few months ago! I’m a wife, a mom of two, and have a full-time job…there is no time to flip through magazines and travel the world for inspiration. Maybe one day! A girl can dream:) At the end of the summer I was feeling like I was in a little bit of a rut. For some reason I had convinced myself that I should have this endless string of creativity oozing from my brain at all times. And why wasn’t it happening?? Then I re-discovered Pinterest. I don’t use it as frequently as Instagram but to be honest I look at my mood boards and sometimes it is more fufilling than an Insta post.


MAKE THIS

I LOVE the Goop detox plans. This will be my third year using recipes from the annual menu and I love the one they’ve created for the working girl in 2019. Last year I was addicted to this oatmeal (I sub the pecans for walnuts) and if you have the time this warming morning latte is out of this world!


SELL/BUY THIS

There are two new trends in shopping that are picking up speed this year: the first is that our generation is starting to care less and less about where they’re purchasing their luxury goods from. This means more business for companies that resell like The Real Real and Tradesy. I’ve recently subscribed to the same line of thinking when shopping for a new handbag. Why pay 5k for this when you can get for less than 2k? I would easily trade a few scratches to have the money back in my pocket for other things. I get it! Also just a note about spending this much on a handbag…when it comes to accessories I’m a serial monogamous and that will never change. I fall in love with a style, think about it for months to a year and once I buy it I use it FOREVER! I talked a little bit about how I’ve had to change my shopping trends because of the blog. Click here for the post.

THE SECOND TREND: Cuyana puts it best, “fewer, better”. The idea that you purchase less frequently and less in general and when you do purchase the consumer is focusing on quality of the item, where it is made, and how long its going to last them. Blogger Meg Hall has taken it as far as a no shop commitment for 2019. She has pledged and started a Facebook support group around not adding anything to her closet for an entire year. I can’t wait to follow along! I’m not sure what this is going to mean for fast fashion brands like Zara and H&M and it will be interesting to see what this means for retail in general. For me the overarching theme is that the consumer is in charge. We are dictating the shopping trends and telling brands how we want to spend our money.


see this

Do you live on one of these streets? Architectural digest recently did an article on the 30 Most Beautiful Streets in America. We recently visited Beacon, NY and it did not disappoint. My favorite on this list? Nantucket! It is hands down the most charming and magical place I have ever been in the United States.



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Posted on January 4, 2019 .

The Things I've Learned from my 4 Year Old

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I started writing this post yesterday but had to stop. I was sobbing looking through pictures and realizing how quickly time had just passed us by. But at the same time it felt like a lifetime ago that Luke was born. How is that? Being a mom is such a magical feeling. It is an exhausting, tireless, and often thankless job people say. I agree with the first two but as I write this I realize how often we are actually thanked by our children. Maybe not in words but in the smiles they give us and the way they look at us. In the last four years Luke has taught me more than I can ever put into words….but I’m going to try:


L I V E in the moment

F I N D joy in the little things

E V E R Y D A Y is a new opportunity to explore

A S K questions

S M I L E

L E A R N how to fall, because then you can learn how to pick yourself back up

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Posted on January 2, 2019 and filed under Boy Mom.

LOOKING AHEAD TO 2019

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Last year I wrote and created 152 blog posts for The Girl Guide. I was actually pretty surprised by this number and when I started counting I thought it was going to be much less. On this day last year I remember thinking, “This year is going to be IT, I’m going do it, I’m going to become a blogger.” I decided to put everything I had, EVERY single extra moment I had (and even the ones I didn’t have) into this blog. There were multiple reasons why. The biggest one was the fulfillment I got every single time I hit the “publish” button. This was MY space. it didn’t belong to my boss and it didn’t belong to my family. It was a place that I owned all on my own, a sacred space where I could share my dreams, my life, my aspirations, and most importantly a place for me to inspire. The second reason was the more practical one. I was tired of retail. I had worked in essentially the same job for 10 years and it was time for me to move on and to grow. At the beginning of 2018 I was committed to going off on my own because I felt there was no other option. It was make this work or live a life where I only saw my kids, my husband, and my friends on the weekends and we never shared the same schedule. There was only one problem. I was walking away from stability and into the unknown. It also meant taking a huge leap of faith in myself and my potential. The losses would be my own but so would the wins. I’m a dreamer by nature but over the years I’ve also become more practical ( I have my husband to thank for that!). So for the next 6 months I prepared for the next step.

July 1st was the first day of my new life. I’m going to do a blog post dedicated to the other non-blogger part of my business. Saying you’re a stylist can mean so many different things to different people. I get asked a lot about what it means and how it works, so look out for a post about that at the end of the month. For now I want to focus on this space. What I want to grow and what I want to stay the same in 2019. If I’m being honest, its tough out there! Its tough to know what you like and what you want to see more of especially on social media. I find judging my success on likes and comments on a post to be difficult and probably inaccurate. 2018 has mostly been a game of trial and error, going with my gut, and responding to direct message requests on Instagram. I can also be really tough on myself especially when it comes to photos of me. Some might say i’m in the wrong business! This year I want to focus on the small wins and not dwell on the misses. Here are a few focuses for 2019:


YouTube

I’m putting this at the top of my list because my number one dream” item on my list for the blog in 2019. That being said there are a few housekeeping items I’ll need to do first but my goal for the new year is to publish at least 4 style videos (one for each season).


Pinterest

Half way through last year I started to feel a little uninspired. I was constantly working and not taking anytime to recharge my mind. Before kids I used to flip through magazines and style sections but those days are gone. I rediscovered Pinterest and I love it! It has really helped me get the creative juices flowing when I feel like I’m in a rut. Its also a place where I organize my thoughts.


Fashion

This year I want to be more transparent about the clothes that I’m wearing. In the past year I have had to significantly change the way I look at my closet. In my pre-Instagram days I was the “investor”, still wearing pieces that I splurged on in High School and college. In Europe, clothes are so much more expensive. Every summer I would buy one or two pieces and wear them for years. Becoming a blogger changed everything. Again, I want to do a bigger post on this, but one of the ways bloggers make money is through affiliate links on our websites and through Instagram. If the clothing we’re wearing is old or no longer available you can’t sell it. This posed quite an issue for me as I wasn’t used to shopping SO much! I had to change my mindset (and my husband’s) and look at things differently. For 2019 my goal is to invest in fewer pieces at the beginning of the season and wear them longer and in more ways. Back to my roots you can say! Also there are three ways I get new clothing: purchase, gifted by a brand, or borrowed from a brand for a shoot. Look out for these mentions in every post moving forward!


Styling

As I mentioned above there will be a post on what being a stylist means to me and what I actually DO! I would like to show more of this world but it can be tough because the majority of my clients are private people. I would never betray their trust by putting their homes or lives on social media or on my blog. That being said I’m going to make it a point to ask more because I have recently had a few clients say they’d be open to it.


Lastly I want to thank you, my readers, from the bottom of my heart. Your messages, your likes, and your support means the world to me. I feel so lucky to have this space and that I get to call this my job. I love hearing from you and my mailbox is always open!

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boots, sunglasses my own // dress, scarf, handbag C/O Theory

END OF THE YEAR SALE

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Posted on December 29, 2018 .

LEOPARD IS THE NEW NEUTRAL

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Leopard is a neutral. There, I said it. No but really think about it….black, browns, tans, and ivory. NEUTRAL! Someone once told me that blondes should never wear leopard. I then showed him a pic of my forever fashion and style inspiration, Carolyn Bessette Kennedy, case closed:) There is definitely a way to tastefully wear animal prints. To prevent a fashion misstep, I always suggest limiting yourself to one piece at a time and pairing it back to a monochromatic look. For something more casual, I always suggest denim. I can’t wait to wear this coat back to a white tee and jeans in the Spring! If you’re looking for leopard in a different color palette I love this gray version. Also this pale snow leopard style would be perfect for New Year’s Eve over a sparkly dress or a creamy cashmere sweater. Need help styling your animal print? Send me a note!

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a touch of leopard



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the girl guide leopard coat

INSPIRED BY THE ICONS



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coat // c/o Tyler Boe

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Posted on December 27, 2018 and filed under Outfits.

LAST MINUTE GIFTS FROM AMAZON

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Today is the last day to order from Amazon and receive your gift in time for Christmas! I rounded up some of my favorites that are prime eligible for all the people in your life. We use Amazon throughout the entire year for the essentials but I never realized how many other specialty items they have available until this month. My go-to will always be shopping from local businesses but in a pinch its great to know that these gifts are available. I ordered three of the travel chargers today! One for my brother-in-law, one for Luke’s Godfather, and one for me!

Happy shopping!

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for him

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TEENS AND KIDS

NEW YEAR'S IN LACE

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HOLIDAY LACE

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could find a dress that you can wear for Christmas and New Year’s Eve? I love these lace styles because you can easily change out the accessories for a different look. Suede or velvet pumps and grosgrain wrapped earrings for Christmas and add a little more sparkle on the 31st. I couldn’t find the exact dress I’m wearing online but tagged similar styles from the same brand. I actually found them on Amazon which means you have three more days to order with free 2-day shipping and receive by Monday. Other last minute items I’m loving from Amazon:

  • This travel blanket scarf is my favorite. So cozy!

  • I purchased this wireless and waterproof speaker for my 15 year old nephew!

  • One of my favorite oils to diffuse in our house - great any time of the year. Here is my diffuser. Honestly its become a routine in our house and someone puts it on every night!

  • My all time favorite interior designer. This coffee table book is on my list! I have this one and love it.

  • My Celine sunglasses for a over 50% off! Love this style:)

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LOVING RIGHT NOW

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Posted on December 20, 2018 and filed under Outfits.

A LITTLE HOLIDAY SPARKLE

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Only 8 sleeps till the big guy comes! Are you ready? I feel like everyone keeps asking that on social media and honestly, I’m usually not completely done until a day or two before Christmas Eve. Frank and I just went through the list of all of our family members and friends that we need gifts for and realized we still need to do a good amount of shopping for the boys! Its hard because they already have so many toys and Luke’s birthday is January 2nd. Last year the amount of gifts he received was so overwhelming that we’re trying to think of an alternative this year. One thought was to save half of his presents for a little half birthday celebration in the summer. I would love suggestions if anyone is in a similar situation with a holiday birthday!

  • I love these gold loafers! They’re a perfect touch of gold and they don’t feel overly holiday that you wouldn’t want to wear them past December.

  • I have this thing for clip-on earrings. it reminds me of my Belgian Grandmother. These are gorgeous.

  • If you’re looking for a fun pair of holiday earrings and are on a budget, THIS under $50 oversized pair is so pretty!

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ACCESSORIES THAT SPARKLE

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DRESS YOUR BAR CART

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the gift guide - the zen friend

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good vibes only

THE PERFECT POP - ORCHARD MILE

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orchard mile

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while now you know, I love my community! Even more than that I love supporting local businesses and stores. So when I found out that one of my favorite online retailers was doing a pop-up in Greenwich I was VERY excited. I discovered Orchard Mile about two years ago when I was looking for a Rachel Zoe tunic that was sold out EVERYWHERE! I had almost given up and then there it was….in every size! When I think of Orchard Mile I think of a marketplace filled with all of my favorite brands and their entire assortment for the season. What makes Orchard Mile different from other online retailers is that they don’t pick and choose a buy every season, they offer it ALL. This has really come in handy for me as a stylist as I’m always on the hunt for my clients. Now you might say that this would be and overwhelming way to shop, but its actually the contrary. Orchard Mile created my mile which allows you to create your own shopping experience on a virtual “street” curated for you, by you! Check out my pics from the Greenwich pop-up plus a round up of my pics from Orchard Mile online.

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MY MILE



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Posted on December 14, 2018 .

AT HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS

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AT HOME



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for the little ones



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PARTY PERFECT



PRETTY IN PINK

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  • Not a pink fan? Click here for my dress in evening blue. Love this alternative to black for the holidays! You can accent it with gold or silver accessories. Also here is a paisley version - the colors are gorgeous!

  • Just found this blouse from the same designer on sale. I love the sleeve detail and the fact that you can wear it casually for work or dressy at night. You can also see it styled here back to denim!

  • If you’re looking for a cocktail dress for Christmas Eve or New Year’s eve this ivory one is so pretty. It could also double as the perfect baby shower guest dress or for any other religious events when you may want to have a longer sleeve.

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THE IVORY BOOTIE



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A PINK HOLIDAY



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Posted on December 4, 2018 .

THE LUXE GUIDE - MY HOLIDAY WISHLIST

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Posted on November 30, 2018 .

STYLING A SILK SKIRT FOR WINTER

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GET THE LOOK


oversized sweater


silk skirt


hoop bag


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WEAR WITH THIS

THE STATEMENT EARRING



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Posted on November 28, 2018 .

A FRINGE SWEATER + CYBER MONDAY SALES

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Happy Monday, cyber Monday! Is it just me or did Thursday to Sunday feel like a very long stretch? We had a great time getting things done around the house, seeing friends and family, and enjoying “no plans” plans! I posted two sale posts which you can still shop - here for Black Friday and here to shop the small businesses I love. Today is the day I’m really going to hunker down and start shopping. This may sound crazy but even I get overwhelmed shopping for myself on big sale days. What I started doing last year that helped me so much was making a list. I really felt more organized and less stressed!

  • Love these slippers for the perfect stocking stuffer! They’re a great steal version of an identical more pricey version and these are $12!!!

  • This is my favorite home site and today only its 30% off!!! Literally unheard of. You can shop my favorites in the Black Friday post.

  • This espresso maker is on my list. And the color!!! So chic!

  • LOVE these flannel PJs and the entire site is 25% off with code BIGDAY

  • This neutral under $100 sweater is so versatile and 30% off for cyber Monday!

  • The diffuser that I use EVERYDAY is 30% off and free shipping. Debating getting another one for the boys room!

  • I just bought this sweater on sale and today its an extra $50 off today! Love the color:)

Happy Monday and Happy shopping!

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SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY

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FOR THE PERSON WHO HAS EVERYTHING


The one gift everyone in my family will be receiving this year? A ChappyWrap blanket! I was given my first ChappyWrap at a luncheon a couple of months ago and after a week with it at home, my family was hooked! Not only are they extremely soft and cozy, they’re also machine washable and so easy to take car of. We’ve already taken ours to the beach, on a road trip, and we recently threw it on top of the boys for a Thanksgiving morning walk. They are the perfect gift for everyone on your list but I think they’re especially great for a college dorm room (which is why my niece will be getting one!). We also used a ChappyWrap for our holiday card shoot:)

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my favorite styles



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SHOP SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY



GOLD & GRAY

If you like to layer necklaces you will love this brand. Love this one and this style!




Kirby & Company

A local favorite of mine! These truffles make the perfect stocking stuffer!


Organachs Farm to Skin

For the clean beauty girl in your life! My favorite winter moisturizer:)